The problem is not that we do these things - the problem is that it becomes a pattern.
This pattern is resistance...or fear. This pattern shackles our energy and we start to feel stuck or blocked. This pattern keeps us from doing things we really want to be doing...and earning what we could be earning.
So, Jamie Stein and I came up with an exercise for a recent Art of Money workshop to help people free up this energy and we asked them:
What is something that you do on a regular basis that you judge or feel shame around?
But, there was a twist. Instead of asking the participants to go into the negative feelings of shame, we had them describe and embody the positive aspects of what that experience brought to them.
For example, something I have done compulsively has been to check my phone first thing in the morning - yeah, I have secret shame about that. But, when I feel into the positive energy of checking my phone - it's that I get excited by the idea that there might be a message - an email, a text, any kind of message. I LOVE getting messages! But, just like a drug, although I might get a little dopamine hit, it never lasts long.
When I dug a little deeper, I found that what I'm really looking for are messages from God, or my Higher Self, or the Universe...I was searching for a spiritual connection! And then I realized I actually do receive a lot of messages - in my dreams.
This exciting discovery showed me that I needed to set up my mornings differently - in a way that would capture these divine directives I received in my dreams. So, I created a worksheet I call my Morning Summit where I ask myself a series of questions that help me to remember my dreams and connect with that deeper intuitive knowing.
And here's the thing: some of my biggest life choices and my biggest earning has come from listening to these messages.
It's powerful to learn how something that brings you shame on a regular basis could actually be masking a part of your most powerful essence and energy...and that energy could be the key to unlocking your potential.
These kinds of shifts can have major real world results in ways that you can't even imagine. After doing our exercise at the workshop, Lola emailed us:
"I just have to say that I FEEL the effects of the Art of Money workshop.
My shameful habit of compulsive overscheduling - which has had devastating effects on my creativity - has morphed...I discovered that what I loved about having tons of stuff to do was the sense of completion I got from checking my lists off. Jamie, you suggested I get that sense of completion from bringing artistic projects to term. WELL. It just kinda started happening without me even thinking about it. It’s so wild. ALSO: work has been raining down on me, I got 5 totally unexpected gigs doing stuff I love to do (writing, singing, performing and translating). I thank you for these miracles - you guys are magicians!!!"
Shame can be a self-destructive force. Jamie and I would love to help you discover what is at the core of that...so that you can begin to find the essence of your beautiful, unique way of earning money doing what you love.
There are only 4 MORE SPACES AVAILABLE for the 2-Day Art of Money Workshop on May 21st & 22nd. Join us!
If you have any questions, email me and I'll be happy to set up a call.